Self care is caring for your future self, not self soothing or regulation.
This statement has been rolling around in my head since I attended a thought provoking training this
last week, challenging perceptions of self care and how therapists take care of their own work.
In general, self care is largely talked about in terms of relaxation and comfort. Self care is sometimes about taking a bath, or giving yourself the night off. Caring for your future self can also include doing the thing that you have been avoiding. I am considering learning something new (or learning something again), having difficult conversations, paying bills, regular exercise, and household chores as also something that takes care of my future self and possibly brings more long term ease into my life.
I am reconsidering self care as a way to take care of my future self and look forward to what I learn.
What do you do for your future self?